You know everyday I wake up thinking it's going to be a good day. I smile, start my day and everyone around me tries to take some of my positive energy way. Every single person I know lies to me. I don't get it. The one thing I cannot live with is lying yet everyone around me does it. My mom, my kid, my friends....EVERYONE...WHY lie???? What is the point??? I am really trying to figure it out. I even tried telling a couple lies and you know what...I felt horrible...Couldn't stop thinking about it, even though they were completely meaningless. I couldn't get past the fact that I lied and I did not like it. SO now I sit here and wonder....I already know no one out there thinks like me so what do other people think when they lie. Do they feel empowered because they made you believe something. Do they justify it...Make themselves believe it is ok? And once they start lying can they stop.
If your boss looked at you and said hey Bob....You are going to get a huge promotion, I just need you to work extra hard on this project we have going, make sure everything runs smoothly. So you exceed the expectation, take on work that wasn't yours and then your boss either never says anything again, or says there is no promotion, or just flat out tells you to wait and work harder even though you know you have done everything you needed to do. Wouldn't you feel deceived. Wouldn't you feel like your boss was taking advantage of your time. If you are working harder then everyone else, not getting the promotion you were told you were going to get, isn't that the same thing as lying? The boss lied to get the employee to do something for him....
In that example I bet the boss doesn't think about what he has done. The ripple effect he caused by lying to the employee. Bob thought he was getting a promotion with better pay. For him that could have meant many things. Maybe not struggling to pay a bill, or hockey lessons for his kid or something. Bob was told he would get this promotion so he believed his boss and made plans for the money he knew he would be getting. When he found out he was lied to Bob doesn't want to exceed the expectation, Bob doesn't trust his boss and probably lost respect for him because the way the situation was handled. Which affects Bob...Not only at work but when he goes home.
So what makes anyone think it is ok to lie. Even white lies are not ok. Don't lie to me to protect my feelings...YOU DO NOT KNOW what I am CAPABLE of handling. Don't lie to me to get something from me, I will give it to you...just ask!!!!! Don't lie to me to get me to do something for you, I will help you.
It gets to the point when every single person you know lies to you, you don't believe anything anyone says. When people lie how can they not see the ripple effect they have caused. They must not see it because they continue to do it..
I seriously have 10 people in my life that I consider Friends. Everyone else I know is an acquaintance. I keep everyone else acquaintances because that is where they deserve to be. Out of these 10 friends I can HONESTLY say that only 3 of them have never lied to me or done something to compromise our friendship. Now these 7 friends I have that are sometimes there for me, sometimes not or lie sometimes, or take advantage of me are lucky they are still around. I sometimes sit back and wonder why are these people my friends. Some of them have been there through hard times, make me laugh or make me try new things. They are nice and for the most part don't lie. But once in a while their true colours show. So I stay friends with them because the pros outweigh the cons.
When these friends lie or let me down I always smile and sluff it off. So it makes me wonder. When I leave the room are they like whew, she believed my lie....Or when they tell the lie do they actually start to believe it?
I dunno...It's like one of those things you just can't figure out. All I know is I refuse to partake in this crap or surround myself with people who lie. I am slowly pushing away anyone who has lied. I give them a chance to make it right and then if they don't walking away is the easiest thing.
SO to anyone who likes to lie to me....Go ahead!!! Remember though every time you see me smile and nod, I know the truth. I might let you think I believed you...But I see through all the lies, every time.
I wish people could learn that hurting anyone to get something they want is wrong and I don't need to do anything the laws of the universe and that magical thing called karma will take care of everything for me ;)
I am off to have a GREAT DAY!!!!
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Des
Comments
HD:
Wow, Des. I know EXACTLY what you are saying. I have given up on people who I though were the best of friends because I couldn't handle their dishonesty-and not only that, but it's insulting to the intelligence to be lied to at all! Oh, I could go on...and on...and on!
Genuine people are a rare breed, hun. It's nice to see that you are one of them!
XOXOX
